Alright, ladies, let’s talk dating, again. I know, I know, you thought you were done with all that first-date awkwardness and texting etiquette nonsense years ago. But life has a funny way of throwing us back into the deep end, and here we are, ready (or not) to dip our toes into the dating pool once more.
Now, before you start envisioning candlelit dinners and long walks on the beach, let’s make sure you’ve got your dating etiquette down pat. Because let’s face it, dating today isn’t exactly what it was 20, 30, or even 40 years ago. But don’t worry! Here are 10 dating etiquette tips for widows who are ready to live a happily, lovely, romantic life, with a little humor and a lot of heart.
1. Don’t Compare Dates to Your Late Spouse (At Least Out Loud)
Sure, your late spouse might have been the gold standard of romantic gestures and dad jokes, but let’s not mention that on the first date (or second…or third). Your date is looking for a partner, not an ongoing comparison chart.
2. Texting Is the New Flirting, Embrace It
Gone are the days of love letters and long phone calls; welcome to the era of emojis and texting shorthand. “LOL” is your new best friend, and yes, sending a playful winky face isn’t as scandalous as it seems. Just remember, no double-texting, it’s an unspoken rule.
3. The Internet Is Your Friend (And Foe)
Online dating is the wild west, but it’s where all the action is. Whether you’re on Match.com or dipping your toes into the mystery that is Tinder, stay open-minded and cautious. Oh, and please, no catfishing, use a recent photo, preferably not from your high school reunion 20 years ago.
4. Be Honest, But Not Too Honest
Your date doesn’t need to know your entire life story right away. Share the highlights, but keep the tales of medical procedures and weird family drama for later (or never).
5. Watch Your Drink (Both Literally and Figuratively)
Sure, that third glass of wine might make him seem funnier, but it can also make you text your kids, “I think I’m in love” way too soon. Stay classy, ladies!
6. Have a Go-To Exit Strategy
Listen, not every date is going to be fireworks and butterflies. Sometimes, you just need an escape plan. A well-timed text from a friend or a “sudden” emergency works wonders.
7. Dress for Confidence, Not Just Comfort
Your favorite cozy sweater might be calling your name, but stepping out with a little extra glam never hurt anyone. Channel your inner diva, because confidence is magnetic, darling!
8. Be Open to Different Types of Dates
Not every date has to be dinner and a movie. Try a cooking class, a hike, or even a virtual trivia night. Who knows, you might just find romance in the most unexpected places.
9. Set Boundaries and Stick to Them
You’re a grown woman who knows what she wants, so don’t be afraid to set clear expectations. Whether it’s your emotional readiness, physical boundaries, or just how much you’re willing to tolerate bad jokes, speak up!
10. Have Fun and Don’t Take It Too Seriously
At the end of the day, dating is supposed to be fun! So laugh off the awkward moments, enjoy the process, and remember that every coffee date doesn’t have to end in wedding bells.
Getting back out there after loss can be nerve-wracking, exciting, and maybe even a little weird, but it’s also a chance to rediscover yourself. So put on that killer outfit, embrace the modern dating scene (even if it involves swiping right), and most importantly, have fun! You deserve love, laughter, and maybe even a little mischief along the way.
Now go forth, you fabulous widow, and take the dating world by storm!