So, you’ve decided to jump back into the dating pool after losing your spouse. First of all, kudos to you! It’s not easy putting yourself out there again. But if you’ve been attracting men who make you want to fake a family emergency just to escape a date, you’re not alone.
If you’ve ever asked yourself, Why do I keep attracting these duds?, buckle up, because we’re about to uncover the top 10 signs that scream, “You’re dating the wrong men!”, and more importantly, how to stop the madness.
1. You Keep Meeting Mr. “Emotionally Unavailable”
This guy has commitment issues bigger than your Amazon cart. He loves talking about his “freedom” and “taking things slow” (translation: he’s emotionally stunted). If a man makes you feel like you’re auditioning for a role in his life rather than being welcomed in, run.
Fix It:
Raise your standards and look for men who are enthusiastic about being with you. If you feel like an option instead of a priority, he’s not it.
2. Every Date Feels Like a Job Interview
If your conversations feel like they belong in an HR office rather than a romantic dinner, you’re dealing with a man who either has zero social skills or is screening you like a corporate hire. Either way, yawn.
Fix It:
Ditch the robotic Q&A and opt for deeper, more engaging conversations. If he can’t hold one, he’s not the guy for you.
3. You’re the ATM (And He’s Always “Between Jobs”)
Listen, we all hit rough patches, but if every guy you date somehow forgets his wallet or has a never-ending sob story about financial struggles, congratulations, you’ve attracted a grown man-child.
Fix It:
Look for a partner, not a project. A real man invests in you, not from you.
4. You’re Being Love-Bombed Into Oblivion
One week in, he’s calling you his soulmate, planning your wedding, and texting you 24/7 like a teenage girl. Slow. Down.
Fix It:
Love should grow naturally, not be launched at you like a fireworks display on the Fourth of July. If he’s rushing things, pump the brakes.
5. He Thinks Your Standards Are “Too High”
Oh, you want a man with a job, emotional maturity, and basic hygiene? Apparently, that’s too much for some. The audacity!
Fix It:
Ignore the critics and keep your standards exactly where they are. The right man will rise to meet them.
6. Every Date Feels Like a Therapy Session (For Him)
If your dinner conversations always revolve around his ex, his childhood trauma, or why he’s “still figuring things out,” you’ve accidentally become his therapist.
Fix It:
If a man isn’t emotionally available, don’t waste your time trying to fix him. You deserve a partner, not a patient.
7. He’s Only Around When It’s Convenient (For Him)
If he’s always “busy” until he suddenly needs a date, an ego boost, or a personal chef, you’re dealing with a part-time man. And let’s be honest, you deserve full-time effort.
Fix It:
Stop making excuses for men who treat you like a backup plan. You’re the plan.
8. He’s a Walking Red Flag Factory
If you catch him lying, acting shady, or making you feel anxious instead of adored, do yourself a favor, send him back where he came from.
Fix It:
Trust your gut. Red flags don’t turn green with time.
9. He Can’t Handle Your Independence
If your success, confidence, or ability to assemble IKEA furniture without help makes him insecure, he’s not the one. Period.
Fix It:
Look for a man who celebrates your strength, not one who’s threatened by it.
10. You’re Ignoring the Patterns
If you keep attracting the same type of man, it’s time for some self-reflection. Are you ignoring warning signs? Settling for less? Believing “this time will be different” when it’s clearly not?
Fix It:
Time to break the cycle! And if you need help identifying what’s really going wrong in your dating life, we’ve got just the thing…
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What’s Your Biggest Dating Struggle?
Drop a comment below and let’s talk! Have you met any of these “wrong” men? Spill the tea, ladies, we’re all in this together!