Dating after loss? It’s like trying to assemble IKEA furniture without instructions, frustrating, confusing, and you may or may not end up crying on the floor.
And let’s be honest, the world of modern dating is a bizarre jungle of ghosting, unsolicited photos, and men who think texting ‘wyd’ at midnight is romantic.
But before you start blaming the entire male species for your single status, let’s talk about the possibility that (deep breath) YOU might be the one standing in your own way.
I know, I know. It’s not easy to hear, but if you’re serious about finding love again, you need to recognize these six major signs that you’re self-sabotaging your dating life, and how to fix it ASAP.
1. You Compare Every Man to Your Late Husband
Listen, your husband was amazing, no one is disputing that. But if you’re out here measuring every potential date against a man who is, well, no longer here, you’re setting yourself (and them) up for failure.
Fix It: Instead of seeking a replica, appreciate new qualities in potential partners. Love after loss doesn’t mean replacing, it means expanding your heart.
2. You Keep Saying ‘Dating Has Changed Too Much’
Sure, the days of meeting someone in a bookstore aisle as you both reach for the same novel are probably gone (thanks, Tinder), but love hasn’t disappeared, it’s just evolved.
Fix It: Embrace technology! Apps aren’t the enemy; they’re just the new dance floor. And if the thought of setting up a profile makes you sweat, The Widow’s Guide to Modern Dating has your back! (More on that in a sec!)
3. You Overthink Everything
Why didn’t he text back yet? Did I laugh too much? Should I have worn the blue dress instead of the black one? Girl. Relax. Not every little thing is a cosmic sign that he’s not interested.
Fix It: Confidence is key. Stop analyzing and just enjoy the process. If someone is meant for you, they won’t be scared off by an extra LOL in your text.
4. You’re Too Stuck in Your Comfort Zone
If your idea of socializing is talking to the cashier at Target, we’ve got a problem. You have to put yourself out there to meet new people.
Fix It: Say yes to more invitations, try new activities, and (brace yourself) actually message first on a dating app. Gasp!
5. You Ignore Red Flags Because ‘It’s Been So Long’
Just because you’ve been out of the dating game for a while doesn’t mean you need to settle for any man who breathes.
Fix It: Set clear boundaries. If a man gives off weird vibes, trust your gut. (Yes, even if he claims he’s ‘different’, spoiler alert: they all say that.)
6. You Secretly Don’t Believe You Deserve Love Again
This one hits deep. Sometimes, without realizing it, you hold yourself back because a part of you feels guilty for moving on or doubts whether you can find someone who will truly love you again.
Fix It: Love isn’t a one-time thing. You deserve happiness, companionship, and a fresh start just as much as anyone else.
The Secret Weapon Every Widow Needs…
Navigating the dating world again can feel like a full-time job, except without the salary or benefits. But guess what? You don’t have to do it alone. The Widow’s Guide to Modern Dating is your ultimate playbook, packed with expert advice, practical tips, and real-life stories from women just like you who found love again.
Get your copy today and take the guesswork out of dating after loss! Because love is out there, you just need the right guide to help you find it.
Your Turn!
What’s been the biggest challenge for you in dating again? Drop a comment below, I’d love to hear your stories!