So, you’re back on the dating scene, and every man you meet gives you that look. You know the one, pitying, hesitant, like he’s afraid you’ll burst into tears over dessert. It’s like you have “WIDOW” stamped on your forehead, and not in a cool, mysterious, Jane Eyre kind of way.
But let’s be real: You are so much more than your past. And if these guys can’t see it? Well, that’s about to change. Buckle up, because we’re diving into six ways to make him see you, the vibrant, confident, and totally dateable woman you are.
1. Ditch the “Sad Widow” Narrative (Even If He Brings It Up)
Yes, your past is a part of you, but it doesn’t have to define you. If the topic comes up, acknowledge it and pivot. Try something like:
“Yes, I lost someone I loved, but I’m in a place where I’m excited about new experiences. What about you? Any embarrassing karaoke moments I should know about?”
Boom. You’re steering the conversation away from doom and gloom and into fun, flirty territory.
2. Embrace Your Sexy Side (Without Feeling Weird About It)
Listen, I get it. After years (or decades) of being with one person, the thought of flirting again might make you break out in hives. But here’s the thing: You still got it, girl.
Try a bold red lip, a well-fitted outfit, or heck, just maintain eye contact a little longer than usual. Confidence is magnetic, and trust me, men notice when a woman walks in owning her space.
3. Show That You’re Here for Love, Not a Therapy Session
Men are not signing up to be your grief counselor. (And if they are, run.) It’s okay to share your past, but if you find yourself constantly bringing up your late spouse, you might be unconsciously sending “emotionally unavailable” vibes.
Instead, talk about your current passions, dreams, and the amazing things you have planned for the future. That’s what makes someone fall for you.
4. Stop Apologizing for Being a Widow (Seriously, Stop)
Ever catch yourself saying things like, “I know it’s weird dating a widow” or “I understand if this is too much for you”? Girl, no. You are not a burden. You are a strong, incredible woman who has so much to offer. Own it.
If a man can’t handle your story, he’s simply not your guy. Next!
5. Use the “Intrigue Factor” to Your Advantage
Here’s the thing, being a widow actually makes you interesting. You’ve lived, you’ve loved, and you’ve got stories that most people can’t even imagine. Instead of shying away from it, lean into it with an air of mystery.
Try dropping a line like, “I’ve been through a lot, and it’s made me see love in a whole new way.” Then, pause. Let him want to know more.
Men love a little mystery. Use it.
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Alright, real talk: Nothing attracts quality men faster than confidence. And if you’re feeling a little out of practice, that’s totally okay, because there’s help.
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Over to You:
What’s been the hardest part of dating as a widow? Drop a comment below, I’d love to hear your thoughts!