Ladies, let’s be honest. Dating after widowhood is like stepping into an entirely new planet where men either a) disappear faster than your favorite lipstick shade, b) text you ‘hey’ 47 times in a row, or c) still live in their mother’s basement.
And who has time for this nonsense? Not you. You’ve already lived a chapter of deep love, and now you deserve someone who doesn’t need a tutorial on emotional maturity. So, how do you weed out the time-wasters, the energy vampires, and the guys who ‘just aren’t ready for anything serious’ but are definitely ready for midnight texts?
Let’s dive in.
1. The ‘Mr. Inconsistent’ Detector
If he only messages when he’s bored, disappears for weeks, or somehow always ‘forgets’ to make actual plans, he’s not busy, he’s just not serious. If you wanted inconsistency, you’d date your WiFi connection.
Pro tip: Trust patterns, not words. If he says, ‘I really like you,’ but his actions say, ‘I barely remember you exist,’ believe his actions.
2. The ‘Too Many Red Flags to Ignore’ Filter
Does he avoid answering simple questions? Does he only communicate in memes? Has he mentioned an ‘ex’ more times than his current job? If a man’s got more red flags than a bullfighting ring, run.
3. The ‘Casualty of Casual Dating’ Warning
If he keeps saying, ‘Let’s just see where this goes,’ he’s already decided, it’s going nowhere.
Pro tip: Stop accepting breadcrumbs when you deserve the whole cake.
4. The ‘Are We in a Relationship or a Situationship?’ Test
If you’re spending more time decoding his texts than actually enjoying his company, he’s not the one. A grown man will be clear about what he wants. A grown man will make you feel secure, not like you’re auditioning for the role of ‘girlfriend’ every day.
5. The ‘Effort Over Empty Promises’ Scale
If he’s always ‘meaning’ to call, ‘planning’ a date, or ‘thinking’ about making more time for you, just know, men do what they want to do. If he wanted to, he would.
6. The ‘Gut Check’ Strategy
Your intuition is your best wingwoman. If something feels off, it probably is. If you feel like you’re pulling all the weight, carrying all the conversations, and making all the effort, it’s time to drop the dead weight.
7. The ‘I’m Not Here for Games’ Solution
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Now, tell me in the comments, what’s the worst dating red flag you’ve ever encountered? Spill the tea!