You’ve already been through enough. You’ve loved, lost, and rebuilt your life. The last thing you need is some smooth-talking charmer swooping in, only to waste your precious time. But how do you know if he’s the real deal or just another player in disguise?
The truth is, some men love to target widows. They think you’re vulnerable. They assume you’re desperate for love. They believe they can say a few sweet words and have you wrapped around their finger.
Spoiler alert: You are nobody’s fool.
So, before you let your heart get involved, watch out for these 7 red flags that scream, “RUN, GIRL, RUN!”
1. He Moves Way Too Fast
If he starts calling you his “queen” after three days, planning vacations after a week, or whispering sweet nothings about forever on date number two, pause.
A genuine man will want to know you before making grand promises. A player? He wants to fast-track your emotions so you don’t see the red flags waving in the wind.
What to do: Slow things down. If he pushes, he’s got an agenda.
2. His Words and Actions Don’t Match
He says, “You’re the only woman I want.” But he forgets to call. He claims, “I’m serious about you,” but won’t introduce you to his friends.
Men can say anything. But a man with intentions backs it up with action.
What to do: Watch his feet, not just his lips.
3. He Hates Answering Questions
Ask him about his past, his job, or his intentions, and suddenly, he gets defensive:
“Why are you interrogating me?”
“Let’s just enjoy the moment.”
“I don’t like talking about my past.”
Translation? He’s hiding something.
What to do: If he dodges basic questions, he’s not relationship material. Simple.
4. He Only Calls When He Wants Something
Ever notice how he goes missing for days and then magically reappears when he needs a favor, money, or a little “company”?
A good man will make consistent efforts to be part of your life, not just when it benefits him.
What to do: Stop answering his calls. You’re a woman, not a convenience store.
5. He Keeps His Life Mysterious
You’ve been dating for months, but you have no idea where he lives, what he actually does for work, or who his real friends are.
Ladies, a man with nothing to hide… hides nothing.
What to do: Ask yourself: “Do I actually know him, or just what he’s chosen to show me?” If it’s the latter, abort mission.
6. He Plays the Victim Too Much
Every ex-girlfriend was “crazy.” His boss “has it out for him.” His life is full of drama, and nothing is ever his fault.
Be careful: Players love to play pity games to make you feel sorry for them, and more willing to overlook their shady behavior.
What to do: You’re not his therapist. If his life is that chaotic, he needs professional help, not a relationship.
7. Your Gut Is SCREAMING at You
You feel something is off. But you brush it aside because he’s nice, or you want to give him a chance.
Ladies, listen: Your intuition is your superpower. If you have a nagging feeling that something isn’t right, trust it.
What to do: If your gut says, “Girl, this ain’t it,” believe it.
Final Thoughts: Know Your Worth
You are strong. You are smart. And you are worthy of a man who truly values you.
Don’t settle for red flags disguised as “romance.”
So tell me: Have you ever dealt with a player? What was the biggest red flag you missed? Drop a comment below, let’s expose these jokers together!