Hey there, beautiful soul! If you’re reading this, chances are love feels like it’s playing an extended game of hide-and-seek with you right now. And let’s be honest, sometimes it feels like it’s winning! Whether you’ve been widowed for a while or you’re just starting to navigate this new chapter, the idea of romance might seem as distant as your high school prom date. But fear not! Love hasn’t ghosted you forever; it’s just taking a scenic route.
Here are seven ways to stay positive (and maybe even have a little fun) while you wait for love to make its grand reappearance.
1. Date Yourself Like a Pro
Who says romance is only for two? Put on your fanciest outfit (yes, that includes the sparkly shoes), book a table at that restaurant you’ve been eyeing, and enjoy your own fabulous company. Bonus points if you flirt with yourself in the mirror. Self-love isn’t just a buzzword; it’s a power move! Treating yourself like the queen you are sets the stage for others to follow suit.
2. Swipe Right on New Hobbies
Instead of swiping endlessly through dating apps where potential matches use pictures from the early 2000s, why not try a new hobby? Whether it’s salsa dancing, pottery, or joining a book club where the only commitment required is showing up with snacks, keeping busy and learning something new will keep you smiling (and who knows, Mr. Right might just be a few cha-cha steps away).
3. Befriend Your Inner Optimist
You know that tiny voice inside your head? The one that loves to remind you how single you are? Yeah, we’re kicking her to the curb. Replace those thoughts with affirmations like, “I am a catch,” “Love is on its way,” and “I am fabulous with or without a plus-one.” Speak it, believe it, and strut your stuff with confidence.
4. Laugh, A Lot
Laughter truly is the best medicine, and guess what? It’s calorie-free! Watch your favorite rom-coms (yes, even the cheesy Hallmark ones), attend a comedy show, or call that one friend who always has the best stories. Finding joy in the little things makes the wait for love feel a lot less like an eternal DMV line and more like a fun adventure.
5. Get Social (and Not Just on Facebook)
It’s easy to fall into the trap of binge-watching old episodes of Golden Girls while scrolling social media, but let’s switch things up. Attend local events, try meet-up groups, or volunteer. Expanding your social circle not only increases your chances of meeting someone special but also brings meaningful friendships into your life.
6. Create a Vision Board, Yes, Seriously
Think vision boards are only for Pinterest moms? Think again! Grab some old magazines, scissors, and glue (or go digital if you’re fancy). Create a visual representation of what you want your future love life to look like. Whether it’s traveling with a partner, sharing morning coffee, or just holding hands on a park bench, manifestation is real, and your vision board is your roadmap.
7. Embrace the “It’s Their Loss” Mentality
If someone you were interested in doesn’t see your worth, remember, it’s their loss, not yours. You are a gem, a rare find, and an absolute delight. Keep that in mind whenever you feel down about love being on hold. In the meantime, enjoy life, love yourself, and remember that the best things (including love) come to those who wait… or at least, to those who wait stylishly.
Final Thoughts
Staying positive when love feels far away isn’t about ignoring the loneliness; it’s about embracing life in all its glorious forms. Whether you’re trying new things, spending time with friends, or simply learning to enjoy your own company, remember, love is not just about finding the right person, it’s about being the right person.
So go ahead, enjoy this season, and when love finally knocks on your door, you’ll be ready with open arms, and probably a killer outfit.
Stay fabulous, stay hopeful, and most importantly, stay YOU!