So, you’ve lost the love of your life (truly, my heart goes out to you), but now, after what feels like an eternity of unsolicited pity from friends and family, you’ve decided to dip your toes back into the dating pool.
And what a circus that pool is.
You meet men who ghost, men who still live with their mothers (yes, at 50+), and men whose idea of romance is sending “wyd?” texts at 10 p.m. You start wondering, is it me? Is my pheromone game off?
No, darling. The truth is, modern dating is just an entirely different beast. But fear not! Because today, I’m handing you 9 psychological tricks that will make him see you as ‘The One.’ Yes, that means no more being “just a great friend” or “a nice lady.” We’re talking head over heels, can’t live without you, move-mountains-for-you status. Let’s get into it.
1. The Power of ‘Selective Mystery’
Men love a challenge, and let’s be honest, you’re not a 24/7 open book (nor should you be). Give him enough to intrigue him, but leave out just enough to make him desperate to know more.
Think of it like a Netflix series, leave him on a cliffhanger after each date. No need to give him your entire life story before dessert.
2. Speak in Emotion, Not Logic
Forget listing out the practical reasons why you’d make a great partner. Logic doesn’t spark love, emotions do. Make him feel something, excitement, joy, passion. Tell stories that paint you as adventurous, romantic, and yes, even a little bit unpredictable.
3. Mirror His Actions (Subtly!)
Psychologists call this mirroring, and it works like a charm. If he leans in, lean in. If he laughs, laugh. If he gestures with his hands, mirror his energy. This subconsciously builds a connection and makes him feel comfortable around you. And comfort leads to affection.
4. Give Him a Sense of Purpose
Men love to feel needed. But in a world where women can do it all, it’s easy to forget that letting him help you (even in small ways) makes him feel valued. So, next time you need to open a jar, reach something on a high shelf, or just need “a strong man’s advice,” ask him. You’re not weak, you’re strategic.
5. Make Him Associate You with Positive Feelings
Science says people fall for those who make them feel good. Plan dates and conversations around fun, joy, and pleasure. If he subconsciously connects you with happiness, he’ll crave being around you.
(Yes, this is why men fall for women who cook for them. No shame, ladies, use every tool available.)
6. The ‘Dopamine Hook’ Strategy
This one’s juicy. The brain craves unpredictable rewards (think casino machines and Instagram notifications). Keep things slightly unpredictable, change up your date locations, switch from texting to voice notes, send an unexpected compliment. Make him hooked on you like his morning coffee.
7. Create an Inside Joke
Inside jokes build intimacy. Whether it’s a funny story from your first date or a ridiculous meme you both laugh about, creating small just-the-two-of-you moments will strengthen your bond like glue.
8. Make Him Think It’s His Idea
Want a second date? A weekend getaway? A commitment? Instead of telling him directly, plant the seed in a way that makes him believe it’s his brilliant idea.
Example:
Instead of: “We should go to that vineyard this weekend.” Try: “I saw this amazing vineyard tour online, I bet you’d love it.”
Watch as he suddenly must take you there. Magic.
9. Use the ‘Scent of Attraction’ Hack
Yes, scent plays a huge role in attraction. Certain fragrances can actually increase attraction levels and make you more memorable. That’s why so many men can’t forget the ex who wore vanilla perfume.
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Final Thought: It’s Your Turn!
Dating after loss isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be a struggle. With these psychological tricks (and a little help from FemmeMystique™), you’ll go from just another date to the woman he can’t stop thinking about.
Now tell me, what’s your biggest dating challenge as a widow? Let’s chat in the comments!