Ladies, let’s be real for a second. Dating after widowhood is like jumping into a pool, only to find out it’s filled with jellyfish. Some of these men out here will waste your time, play mind games, and leave you wondering, Did I misread the signals, or is he just a terrible texter?
Spoiler alert: if you have to wonder, you probably already have your answer. But don’t worry, I’ve got you! Let’s go through the 9 telltale signs that he’s just not that into you, so you can gracefully exit stage left before you end up emotionally invested in someone who treats you like a casual Tuesday errand.
1. His Texts Are as Rare as a Solar Eclipse
You send a thoughtful message, and three days later, he replies with: “Hey.”
Oh honey, no. Unless he’s been kidnapped by pirates or lost in the Amazon rainforest, he has no excuse. A man who’s into you will want to talk to you. Constantly.
2. He Forgets Important Details About You
You told him your late husband’s name, your favorite movie, and the fact that you’re allergic to shellfish. And yet, next date, he asks, “Wait, you’re a widow?” Sir, do you even know who you’re on a date with? If he’s not making the effort to remember the small (but important!) details, it’s because he doesn’t see a future with you.
3. He’s Always “Busy”
You suggest dinner. He’s swamped. You offer coffee. He’s got a work thing. But every time you check his social media, he’s out golfing with his buddies or liking thirst traps on Instagram. Hmm. Looks like he’s busy prioritizing everything except you.
4. You Feel Like You’re the Only One Trying
If the entire relationship feels like a group project where you’re the only one doing the work, then congratulations, you’re dating a ghost. And not the fun kind that gives you closure. A real man who values you will meet you halfway.
5. He Won’t Define the Relationship
If you’ve been dating for months and he still refers to you as his friend or that lovely woman I sometimes text, it’s time to pack your dignity and leave. A man who’s serious about you will claim you. Period.
6. He’s Hot and Cold (Like a Faulty Space Heater)
One day, he’s showering you with compliments and future plans. The next, he disappears like a magician at a kid’s birthday party. If he’s running hot and cold, he’s either emotionally unavailable or keeping his options open. Either way, you deserve better.
7. You Always Feel Like an Option, Not a Priority
If you only get the leftover scraps of his time, late-night texts, last-minute plans, and zero effort, it’s because you’re not a priority. The right man will make you feel like the prize you are.
8. He Doesn’t Talk About the Future
If he’s serious about you, he’ll talk about future plans, whether it’s a vacation next summer or simply what you’re doing this weekend. If he avoids those conversations like the plague, it’s because he doesn’t see one with you.
9. Your Gut Tells You Something’s Off
Women’s intuition is real, and yours has been trying to send you signals like a malfunctioning car alarm. If you feel like something is off, it probably is. Don’t ignore the red flags just because you’re lonely. You deserve someone who chooses you wholeheartedly.
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Now, tell me, have you ever dealt with a guy who just wasn’t that into you? Share your story in the comments. Let’s laugh, cry, and heal together!