So, you’ve re-entered the dating world after losing your partner. First off, applause to you. Dating is already a circus, and now you’re navigating it with wisdom, experience, and a keen radar for nonsense. But let’s face it, some men aren’t looking for love, they’re looking for an ego boost, a babysitter for their emotions, or worse…someone to text at 2 AM when they’re bored.
How do you tell the difference? Fear not, because I’ve got nine surefire ways to separate the real-deal Romeos from the attention-seeking jesters.
1. He Talks More About His Ex Than About You
If he’s still analyzing why his last relationship ended (in excruciating detail), you’re not his date, you’re his therapist. A man who truly wants love is emotionally available. A man who just wants attention? He’s still drafting text messages to his ex at midnight.
2. He Disappears for Days and Then Returns Like Nothing Happened
Did he ghost you for an entire weekend, only to pop back up on Monday like a lost Amazon package? Classic attention-seeker move. A man looking for real love won’t treat you like an intermittent Wi-Fi signal.
3. He Only Texts, Never Calls
If all of his communication skills begin and end with emojis and “WYD?” at odd hours, he’s not investing in you. A man serious about love will actually dial your number. Revolutionary, I know!
4. He Can’t Make Plans More Than 24 Hours in Advance
“Hey, wanna grab dinner in 15 minutes?” means you’re his backup plan, not his priority. A man looking for love will actually schedule time for you, not just fit you in between his gym session and his next nap.
5. You Haven’t Met a Single Person From His Life
A man in love is proud to show you off. If you haven’t met his friends, family, or even the barista at his favorite coffee shop, you’re being kept in the shadows for a reason. And that reason probably isn’t romantic.
6. He’s All Compliments, No Substance
“You’re so beautiful.” “You’re amazing.” “You’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me.” Sounds great, right? But if he can’t name a single thing he loves about your personality, he’s just buttering you up for attention.
7. He’s Only Interested When You Start Pulling Away
When you’re attentive, he’s MIA. But the second you get busy with work, hobbies, or, heaven forbid, your own life, he suddenly remembers your existence? He’s not in love; he’s just addicted to the chase.
8. You Catch Him on Dating Apps (Yes, Plural)
If he still has active profiles on multiple dating apps, you’re not the only woman he’s showering with his half-hearted efforts. A man serious about love won’t be shopping around while you’re emotionally investing.
9. He’s Not Interested in Your Emotional World
Does he change the subject when you talk about your past, your late partner, or your actual feelings? A real partner listens and supports. An attention-seeker just waits for his turn to talk.
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What’s Your Biggest Dating Red Flag?
I want to hear from YOU! Drop a comment below with the biggest red flag you’ve ever encountered while dating. Let’s swap stories and save each other from these time-wasting charmers!