Ladies, let’s be real, dating after loss is like trying to assemble IKEA furniture without instructions. Confusing, frustrating, and possibly ending in tears. But here’s the kicker: after everything you’ve been through, you don’t have time for men who are just here for a good time and not a long time.
So, how do you separate the genuine keepers from the ones who ghost faster than your Amazon package arrives? Simple. You put them through the Widow-Proof Commitment Test (patent pending, but not really).
1. The “Future Talk” Drop Test
Nothing scares a non-committal man more than the mere mention of the future. Casually drop phrases like, “Wouldn’t it be nice to visit Paris together one day?” and watch his reaction. If he suddenly develops an allergy to commitment and starts mumbling about “taking things slow,” he’s out. Next!
2. The “I Have Standards” Challenge
You’re a high-value woman. You’ve loved deeply, and you deserve someone who meets your standards. Mention your non-negotiables (without apology). If he suddenly looks like he’s mentally drafting his escape plan, congrats, you just dodged a walking red flag.
3. The “Widow Reality Check” Move
The fact is, you come with history. Drop a subtle mention of your past relationship, and see if he listens with empathy or if he fidgets like a kid waiting for recess. A man who respects your journey will never make you feel like your past is baggage, he’ll see it as a testament to your strength.
4. The “Ghost-Proof Communication” Test
If he’s taking three business days to respond to a simple text but can post memes on Instagram all day, he’s not serious. A man who is invested in you will prioritize communication. Period.
5. The “Investment” Experiment
A man who sees a future with you will invest, his time, his effort, and yes, sometimes his wallet. If he’s only offering the bare minimum (like responding with “lol” to your heartfelt messages), cut him loose. Relationships require mutual investment. You deserve better.
Bonus Tip: Need a Foolproof Way to Screen Him?
If all this sounds exhausting (because, let’s be honest, it is), I’ve got a solution. Dating Clarity Cards, a deck designed specifically for widows re-entering the dating scene. These cards help you ask the right questions early on, so you don’t waste your time on the wrong ones.
Why you need them:
- Uncover his true intentions fast
- Skip the awkward “where is this going?” conversation
- Save yourself from unnecessary heartbreak
Grab your deck today and start dating smarter!
Over to You:
What’s the biggest dating red flag you’ve encountered? Drop it in the comments, I need some tea!