So, you’ve finally decided to dip your toes back into the dating pool after losing the love of your life. You’re excited, nervous, and maybe even a little skeptical. And guess what? You should be! Because, ladies, let’s be honest, some men would rather craft an Oscar-worthy backstory than tell you the truth.
But fear not! We’re here to arm you with the ultimate lie detector: your own intuition, sprinkled with a little guidance from us. Here are nine unmistakable signs your date is feeding you a bowl of freshly served nonsense.
1. His Stories Keep Changing Faster Than a Soap Opera Plotline
One minute he’s a former athlete, the next he’s an aspiring novelist, and before dessert arrives, he’s claiming he once lived in Paris. Sound familiar? If his history keeps shifting like a badly written TV drama, he’s either got a terrible memory or a talent for fiction.
What to do: Ask simple follow-up questions and watch him squirm. It’s oddly entertaining.
2. He Dodges Specific Questions Like a Pro
You ask, “So, what happened in your last relationship?” and he responds with a vague, “Oh, it just didn’t work out.” No details, no emotions, just a swift topic change. Honey, if he’s dancing around your questions like he’s on Dancing with the Stars, something’s up.
What to do: Press gently. If he keeps dodging, you’ve got your answer, he’s hiding something.
3. He’s Weirdly Defensive About the Past
You casually mention his supposed job at a marketing firm, and suddenly, he’s ranting about how people always doubt him. Whoa, buddy! Defensive much? If someone gets overly touchy about innocent questions, they’re protecting a house of cards.
What to do: Watch for over-the-top reactions. The truth doesn’t need a dramatic defense.
4. He’s Always the Victim in His Past Relationships
Every ex was “crazy,” “clingy,” or “just didn’t understand him.” Ah yes, the universal sign of someone who refuses to take accountability. If every past relationship was a disaster and it’s never his fault, girl, run!
What to do: Ask what he learned from past relationships. If he blames everyone else, he’ll do the same to you.
5. He Overcompensates With Too Much Detail
We get it, honesty is important, but if he’s giving you a novel-length explanation of why he left his last job before you even ask, he’s probably covering up a lie. When people over-explain, they’re trying to sound convincing.
What to do: Notice when details feel rehearsed or unnecessary. Trust your gut.
6. He Has a Shady Online Presence (Or None at All!)
Google is your BFF. If a man in 2024 has zero online footprint, he’s either a spy (cool, but unlikely) or he’s hiding something. On the flip side, if his socials look suspiciously curated, no tagged photos, no friends, only professional-looking posts,.
What to do: A little light stalking never hurt anyone. If something seems fishy, it probably is.
7. His Work History Doesn’t Add Up
He claims to have been a VP at a tech company but can’t explain what “cloud computing” is? Sketchy. If his job titles sound grand but his knowledge doesn’t match, he might be padding that resume.
What to do: Casually ask industry-related questions. Watch for vague answers or confusion.
8. He’s Weirdly Cagey About His Friends & Family
If you’ve been dating for a while and you still haven’t met his friends or family (or even heard much about them), he might be hiding a double life. Or a wife. Yikes.
What to do: Bring up meeting his circle. If he panics, something’s off.
9. Your Gut Says Something’s Not Right
Ladies, your intuition is your superpower. If something feels off, even if you can’t pinpoint why, listen to that inner voice. More often than not, it’s onto something before your brain catches up.
What to do: Don’t ignore that weird feeling. If he’s sending mixed signals, cut your losses.
The Secret Weapon Every Smart Woman Needs
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Over to You!
Have you ever caught a date lying about his past? What were the red flags? Share your stories in the comments, we’d love to hear your experiences!