Ladies, let’s be real, dating after losing a spouse is like signing up for an extreme sport you never wanted to play. One minute, you’re reminiscing about the good old days, and the next, you’re dodging weirdos who think “grieving widow” is their personal dating niche. But fear not! I’m here to help you spot the red flags before you waste another evening listening to a guy explain why he doesn’t technically live in his mom’s basement.
Here are six major warning signs that scream run for your life!
1. The Ghost of Relationships Past
If he won’t shut up about his ex, good or bad, you’re in trouble. Whether he’s trash-talking her like she burned down his childhood home or reminiscing about “the one that got away,” you’re not dating him; you’re dating his emotional baggage. You deserve a partner, not a front-row seat to his therapy session.
2. Mr. Love Bomb
If he’s planning your wedding before the appetizer arrives, it’s not love, it’s manipulation. A guy who showers you with excessive affection, gifts, and grand promises immediately isn’t Prince Charming; he’s more like a used car salesman trying to close a deal before you notice the check engine light. Proceed with caution.
3. The Vanishing Act
One minute, he’s texting you sweet nothings, and the next, he’s disappeared faster than your motivation to go to the gym. If he’s constantly ghosting and reappearing like a part-time magician, he’s not confused, he’s keeping his options open. And you, my dear, deserve better than being someone’s backup plan.
4. The Pity Collector
Beware of the man who treats your widowhood like a free pass to a never-ending therapy session. If he’s more interested in your past pain than your present happiness, it’s a major red flag. You need a partner who sees you, not just your loss.
5. The Commitment-Phobe (But Also a Control Freak)
If he avoids defining the relationship but still expects you to check in like you’re on parole, congratulations, you’ve met the worst kind of man. He doesn’t want a girlfriend; he wants an emotional support human. Hard pass.
6. The “Fixer”
This one thinks he’s here to save you. He’ll act like you’re a broken bird who needs his wisdom, guidance, and oh-so-special love to heal. Spoiler alert: You don’t need fixing. You need someone who sees you as whole, strong, and completely capable of finding happiness on your own terms.
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What’s the biggest red flag you’ve encountered while dating? Drop it in the comments below, I need the tea!