Look, you didn’t survive the chaotic world of marriage, widowhood, and unsolicited advice from nosy relatives just to be ignored by some guy on a dating app. Oh no, my dear! It’s time to flip the script and make him do the chasing.
Dating in today’s world might feel like trying to assemble IKEA furniture without instructions. But fear not! I’ve cracked the code. Here are six psychological tricks to make him chase you like a dog after a steak (or a commitment-phobic man after his ‘space’).
1. The Power of Absence – Channel Your Inner Mystery Woman
Men, much like toddlers, are obsessed with what they can’t have. If you’re always available, you become the human equivalent of background noise. The trick? Be a little scarce. Respond to texts at a leisurely pace, have a fabulous life outside of him, and for heaven’s sake, never answer on the first ring. He’ll start wondering what’s keeping you busy – and boom – curiosity turns into obsession.
2. Play the ‘I’m Slightly Hard to Get’ Card
Not to be confused with playing impossible to get – you’re classy, not cruel. If he asks you out for Friday, let him know you have “plans” (even if those plans involve sweatpants and a true crime documentary). Suggest another day instead. The takeaway? You’re not desperately waiting by the phone. You have a life, and he’ll want in.
3. Use the “Reward & Withdraw” Strategy
Ah, the good ol’ push and pull. Give him just enough attention to get him hooked, then pull back slightly. Compliment him genuinely, make him feel like a king… and then, just when he’s getting comfortable, disappear for a bit. Let him sit in that uncertainty. Humans chase what feels fleeting – be the limited edition version of yourself!
4. Make Him Feel Like the Hero of Your Story
Men love to feel needed. It’s called the hero instinct, and it’s hardwired into their psychology. If you subtly trigger this, he won’t just chase you – he’ll move mountains. How? Ask for his help in small ways. Let him carry something for you, ask for his opinion on a decision, or casually say, “I feel so safe with you.” Watch how he puffs up with pride!
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5. Don’t Reveal Everything at Once – Keep Him Guessing!
Ever notice how thrillers keep you glued to the screen? It’s because you never quite know what’s coming next. That’s how you should be! Drop hints about your life but don’t give him the full novel. Be the woman who surprises him – whether it’s picking an unexpected date spot or having an intriguing hobby. Predictability is the enemy of excitement.
6. Mirror His Energy (Without Losing Your Own)
People are naturally drawn to those who reflect their energy. If he’s playful, be playful back. If he’s deep and serious, match his depth. But here’s the key: never shrink yourself. The best version of you is the one that’s true to YOU. When he sees you’re a woman who can adapt while staying authentic, he’ll be hooked.
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