Dating after loss is already hard enough, like trying to assemble IKEA furniture without instructions (or an Allen wrench). But when you’re out there, bravely dipping your toes into the dating pool, the last thing you need is to end up swimming with sharks.
Yes, ladies, some dates are hiding more than just bad fashion choices. They’re keeping secrets, big ones. And before you start picturing a rom-com ending, let’s make sure you’re not actually starring in a psychological thriller.
Here are 7 shocking signs your date is hiding something… and what you should definitely do about it.
1. They Avoid Talking About Their Past Like It’s a Classified CIA File
If your date dodges every question about their past like it’s an Olympic sport, be warned. Sure, maybe they do have a boring childhood story (who doesn’t?), but if they can’t even share basic details, like where they grew up or what they do for a living, red flag alert!
What to do: Casually ask about their life in a natural conversation. If they change the subject faster than a politician under fire, take the hint and run.
2. Their Phone Is Practically Superglued to Their Hand
Look, we all love our phones. But if they treat their phone like a state secret, always screen down, never answering calls, mysteriously disappearing for long text exchanges, you might want to question why.
What to do: Play it cool and observe. If they suddenly have to take a call every time you’re together but never tell you who it was, you might just be dating a magician. (And not the good kind.)
3. Their Social Media Is Non-Existent or Suspiciously Empty
In today’s world, everyone has some digital footprint. If they have zero presence online (no Facebook, no Instagram, not even a suspicious LinkedIn profile from 2012), they might be hiding something, or someone.
What to do: Google them (yes, we all do it). If nothing comes up except an old MySpace account from 2006, it might be time to investigate further.
4. They Get Super Defensive Over Simple Questions
Ask about their weekend plans? They react like you just accused them of espionage.
Try to clarify where they work? Suddenly, you’re “too nosy.”
What to do: Healthy relationships thrive on openness. If they treat basic questions like an interrogation, they’re either hiding something, or they’ve watched way too many crime dramas.
5. They Have Too Many “Crazy Exes”
Ladies, hear me loud and clear: if every single ex they’ve ever had was “completely crazy,” guess what? The common denominator is them.
What to do: Run, don’t walk. If all their past relationships ended in chaos, yours probably will too. And you deserve better.
6. Their Stories Don’t Add Up
One day, they’re from Chicago. The next, it’s New York. Last week, they were an accountant, but now they’re an “entrepreneur” with vague business dealings.
What to do: Call them out (playfully). If they fumble and suddenly “remember” their actual life story, you’ve got yourself a professional fibber.
7. Your Gut Says Something Is Off
You know that little voice inside your head? The one that told you NOT to cut your own bangs at 2 AM? Yeah, listen to it.
What to do: If something feels off, it probably is. Trust yourself, you’re wiser than you think.
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