Let’s be real. Dating after widowhood feels a little like being dropped into a reality show you didn’t sign up for. Everyone’s swiping, ghosting, and throwing around words like “situationship”, and here you are, wondering if you even remember how to flirt.
Spoiler alert: You do.
And the best part? You don’t have to chase anyone. You just need to give him a reason to chase you. So, if you’re ready to put yourself back out there (without feeling like an awkward teenager), here are six ridiculously simple tricks to have him hooked in no time.
1. Stop Being Too Available (Seriously, Stop)
You’re a queen, not a 24/7 customer service line. Answering his texts within three seconds, canceling plans to see him, or acting like you have no life outside of him? Not attractive. Men love a challenge, not a woman who seems like she’s waiting by the phone. Take your time responding. Make him wonder what you’re up to. Be a little mysterious. You’re a whole woman with a life, and he needs to earn a spot in it.
2. Use the Power of Subtle Touch (But Not in a Creepy Way)
A light touch on his arm when you laugh, brushing past him “accidentally” in a doorway, these tiny gestures spark chemistry without screaming, “I WANT YOU!” It’s like adding just a pinch of salt to food. Too much and it’s overwhelming. Just enough, and he can’t get enough of you.
3. Master the Art of the Glance and Look Away
Eye contact is magic. But here’s the real trick: Lock eyes with him for a few seconds, smile slightly, then look away. That’s it. No staring him down like you’re plotting his demise, and no nervous darting eyes like you just stole something. Confidence is key. This simple move tells him you’re interested, but you’re not desperate. Let him come to you.
4. Be Unapologetically Happy (It’s Magnetic!)
Nothing is more attractive than a woman who loves her own life. If you’re still carrying the weight of the past (understandably so), take time to heal before diving in. Men are drawn to women who radiate joy, laughter, and confidence. So, book that trip, join that dance class, laugh until your stomach hurts. When you love your life, people will want to be a part of it, including him.
5. Drop a Compliment That Hits Different
Skip the “Nice shirt” or “Cool watch.” Yawn. Instead, go for something that sticks with him: “You have an amazing way of making people feel comfortable,” or “I love how passionate you are about (insert his interest here).” People remember how you make them feel. Make him feel seen, and he’ll crave more of your attention.
6. Let Him Do the Work (You’re Worth It)
Listen, you’re a prize. A limited edition. If he’s genuinely interested, he will call, text, and make an effort to see you. If he doesn’t? Move on. The right man will pursue you without you having to beg for his attention. Your job is to show up as the fabulous, high-value woman you are, and let him prove he’s worthy of your time.
Final Thought: Are You Ready to Let Him Chase You?
Look, getting back into the dating game can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. You already have everything you need, you just need to believe it. So tell me, which of these tricks are you going to try first? Or do you have a secret move of your own? Drop a comment below and let’s talk!