Let’s be real: Losing your husband was not part of your five-year plan. If one more well-meaning person tells you, “God has a purpose for everything,” you might just throw a casserole at their head. You loved your husband, and now he’s gone. And on top of all the grief, pain, and overwhelming paperwork, you’re wrestling with something no one likes to talk about, doubt.
Where was God when your world collapsed? Why does He allow such pain? Is He even there at all?
If you’ve found yourself asking these questions, congratulations! You’re officially human. Doubt isn’t a sign of weak faith, it’s a sign that your faith is real enough to struggle. So, what do you do with these doubts? Let’s dive in.
1. Scream, Cry, and Tell God Exactly How You Feel
Spoiler alert: He can handle it.
If you were raised to believe that questioning God is off-limits, I’ve got news for you, half the Bible is people questioning God. (Looking at you, Job, David, and pretty much all the prophets.) God doesn’t zap people for being honest with Him. Instead, He invites it.
So, scream. Cry. Write an angry letter to God. Tell Him that His “plan” sucks and that you’re mad, confused, and heartbroken. Your emotions don’t scare Him.
2. Stop Trying to Solve the “Why”, It Will Break Your Brain
Listen, if theologians, philosophers, and the greatest minds in history haven’t cracked the mystery of suffering, you’re not going to figure it out between crying jags and microwave dinners.
The truth? We may never fully understand why bad things happen. But faith isn’t about having all the answers, it’s about trusting even when you don’t. Instead of asking, “Why did this happen?” try shifting to, “How can I move forward despite this?”
3. Find Safe People Who Won’t Throw Clichés at You
You don’t need another “God gives His toughest battles to His strongest soldiers” speech. (Seriously, can we retire that phrase already?) You need people who will sit with you in your pain, not try to fix it with bumper-sticker theology.
Seek out a support group, a counselor, or a no-judgment-zone friend who will let you process your doubts without throwing scripture darts at your face. You deserve space to grieve and wrestle with your faith in peace.
4. Look for Tiny Glimmers of Hope (Yes, They Still Exist)
Right now, everything might feel dark and meaningless. But if you pay attention, there are still small moments of beauty, a kind word from a stranger, a sunrise that takes your breath away, a memory that makes you smile instead of cry.
These aren’t coincidences. They are whispers that God is still with you, even if He feels silent. Cling to these small moments. They are proof that even in the ashes, light still exists.
5. Remember: Doubt Doesn’t Equal Abandonment
Here’s the truth: Having doubts about God doesn’t mean you’ve lost Him, and it certainly doesn’t mean He’s lost you.
Faith isn’t about never questioning, it’s about holding on even when you’re unsure. God is big enough for your anger, heartbreak, and confusion. And even if you let go of Him for a while, He’s never letting go of you.
What Now? Your Turn.
So, where are you in this messy, unpredictable, painful journey? Have you doubted God since losing your husband? How have you wrestled with your faith? Drop a comment below, I’d love to hear your story (no judgment, just real talk). Let’s walk through this together.